One week exactly after my son David passed away, my husband and I were asleep in bed when our travel alarm clock began ringing. This alarm had not been used for two years. It needs to be set and it was under other items. We both intuitively knew that it was David.
I went into David's room to sort some of his things. He died from cancer (brain tumor) and during his chemotherapy, he would smoke marijuana to give him some relief from the terrible vomiting and also to give him an appetite. I was all of a sudden overwhelmed by the smell of marijuana. There was no marijuana in his room as I had given to someone two days before. I felt David's presence at the time and I sat on his bed and talked to him. The odor lingered for approximately ten minutes. I went and had a shower and when I returned the smell was completely gone. This happened about four weeks after David's death.
My sister was awakened twice by very powerful smells and these events both happened about four weeks after David’s death as well. First, she awoke in the middle of the night to the very powerful smell of flowers. The smell was so strong that it woke her out of a sound sleep. It also lingered for about ten minutes. Later when she was asleep, again she was awoken once again. This time to the smell of pickles. David loved pickles more than anyone I've ever known. It was actually kind of a joke in our family. We both thought it was so creative that he would come through with these smells.
At about eight weeks after David's death, I had an out of body experience. This is something that I have done many times in my life so I was not surprised by this at all. This time it was different because I went to where David was. My daughter Michelle (who is living) greeted me so I was a bit confused why she would be there. She took me to where David was. The greenery and the lushness of this place was stunning. David was standing on a brick surface with four other young men standing around him. They were looking at something that David had in his hands. It looked to be paper. He looked up and saw me. His expression was pure amazement. The most interesting thing about this experience was that I could feel his emotions as though they were my own. He came towards me and me to him... he picked me up and swung me around saying... "I love you, I love you, I love you." I know that we then had a conversation but I am not consciously aware of the nature of that conversation. The next thing I knew, I was back in my body fully alert.
I just had a second out of body experience two nights ago. I again went to see David. Both times I have been wide-awake, fully conscious and aware that I am astral projecting. I went to a beautiful place. There was a mountainside with a large, deep lake or body of water beneath it. There were young people (mostly young men) in pairs all over the mountainside. They were having a tournament or playing a game where they would wrestle standing up... trying to push the other one into the water below. This in no way was violent or mean spirited... simply young people having fun. There was a lovely energy about it. I was scanning the mountainside trying to find David as I intuitively knew he was there. Just then our eyes met... they locked together. It was amazing. Once again... I could feel his excitement and pure amazement that I had come to him. I was on the other side of this body of water looking across at him and before I knew it, he was there beside me. David seemed quite concerned about why I was there and when I reassured him that I just had to see him and know that he was all right... he was quite content with that. Once again, we had a conversation. I am absolutely blank on what we talked about. He then took me into a building that resembled a church in a way. There was a person speaking in the front and the building was filled with many young people. David introduced me to several of these young people who were very kind and warm towards me. Without any memory of saying that I should return home, or feeling that way, I was back in my body again.
A couple of nights ago my husband had to work an overnight shift. This happens rarely and I was feeling a little anxious and worried about being alone. There was a lot of wind outside and many noises. Just after I lay down in bed to go to sleep, I felt the bed depress just as though someone laid down beside me. It was in no way an uncomfortable or frightening experience. It was very comforting and I felt that it was David beside me.Background Information:Gender: FemaleDate NDE Occurred: the first one happened exactly one week to the day. It's quite been four months since David's death and I have had several ADC'sNDE Elements:At the time of your experience, was there an associated life-threatening event? How do you consider the content of your experience? WonderfulDid you feel separated from your body? Yes How did your highest level of consciousness and alertness during the experience compare to your normal everyday consciousness and alertness? Severe sadness and/or grief feelingsAt what time during the experience were you at your highest level of consciousness and alertness? Fully alertDid time seem to speed up or slow down? Everything seemed to be happening at once; or time stopped or lost all meaning Did your vision differ in any way from normal? Both times when I saw my son, he was extremely thin but looked very healthy. David had cancer and went from 195 pounds down to 125 at the time of his death. He was 6'1" tall so he was extremely thin. David had a huge scar on his head from the three brain surgeries... also a large bald spot there from the radiation. In these out of body experiences where I went to him... he was very thin but he looked healthy and glowing...very happy. He did not have a scar on his head and he had all of his hair. He had a favorite tee shirt that we put on him after he died... which he was wearing on both of these occasions when I saw him after his death.Did your hearing differ in any way from normal? On one occasion I heard my son telling me that he loves me. On another occasion, I was aware that we were talking but I don't remember there being actual words.Did you encounter or become aware of any deceased (or alive) beings? Uncertain David and I were extremely close, very connected. We shared a wonderful love for each other.Did you see an unearthly light? No Did you seem to enter some other, unearthly world? A clearly mystical or unearthly realm On the two different events, they were both in very different locations. The first one was at a very beautiful, lush, green and forested place that was a home. There was a brick driveway on which we stood. The second time was at the mountainside where there was a lake. There was also a building that was church like.What emotions did you feel during the experience? I could feel his incredible love.Did you suddenly seem to understand everything? Everything about the universe I have a sense of receiving important information but I am not able to retrieve that information now.Did scenes from the future come to you? No God, Spiritual and Religion:Did you have a change in your values and beliefs because of your experience? No Did you believe in the existence of God prior to your experience? Believed definitely God existsDo you believe in the existence of God after your experience? Believed definitely God existsConcerning our Earthly lives other than Religion:Did you believe in an afterlife prior to your experience? Believed it definitely could happenDo you believe in an afterlife after your experience? Believed it definitely could happen Did you fear death prior to your experience? Believed definitely God existsDo you fear death after your experience? Not fearfulAfter the NDE:Was the experience difficult to express in words? No Do you have any psychic, non-ordinary or other special gifts after your experience that you did not have before the experience? No Are there one or several parts of your experience that are especially meaningful or significant to you? The best part was just being with my son and seeing him so happy and out of pain. The worst part is leaving him but I do know that he's around me and I know I can see him again.Have you ever shared this experience with others? Yes I've shared this with just a few people. Their reaction is typically, "I wish I could have an experience like that."What did you believe about the reality of your experience shortly (days to weeks) after it happened? Experience was definitely real. RelaxedAt any time in your life, has anything ever reproduced any part of the experience? No Is there anything else that you would like to add about your experience? I'm hoping that my experiences might help someone else that needs some validation of their own.Are there any other questions that we could ask to help you communicate your experience? I think you covered it very well. Thank you so much.
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