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Bitten by Black Widow spider three times on arm.  Was found by husband not breathing and without a pulse.  Must have only been for a brief period.

 Experience description:  

In a nutshell, I ended up having to lie on the sofa to try to breathe.  I ended up first coming OUT of my body!  It was scary for me.  VERY scary for me.  The only reason I know it happened is because, as I was lying on the sofa with my eyes closed, trying to breathe...all of a sudden, I could see my husband standing at the kitchen sink doing dishes and talking to our daughter who was playing in her highchair with some kind of blue toy.  As I opened my eyes, I saw that the foot of the sofa was about 5 feet below me.  I was ready to ask my husband to call 911...but decided against it...and then decided to pray.  Note:  I hadn't "really" prayed in years.  We're talking SERIOUS backsliding here.  I fell into all kinds of bad things.  Anyway...as I began to pray...I started to spin and spin and spin.  THEN, OK, this is going to sound really whacko, but it's the truth -- you know how people talk about going into a white light?  Well, I didn't have a "white" light, but there was a wonderful, calming, warm, homey light that was a color I'd NEVER seen before.  The only way I can describe it is a violet/white/blue fluorescent type color -- but it was almost like a pool of color or presence (not a tunnel, really) that was radiating so tremendously.  I WANTED to take it in..to go to it...but I DIDN'T because I knew what it meant.  What I know it meant was that, if I went with that light, I'd be taken from this Earth.  I cried inside and asked God to please spare me and give me a second chance at life.  That I knew my husband and baby daughter could not stand to live without me (my husband tragically lost his father at 14).  I knew the choice wasn't my own...which is why I prayed to the Lord to please give me another chance.  That I promised to go back to Himm...to take him back into my heart.  To do things right this time. The point is, that experience has changed my life forever.  I'm so grateful for it, but I'm sorry and disappointed that it took that -- something so extreme -- to make me wake up.  I'm having a very hard time not hating myself for the bad choices I've made in the past.

Note:  Before I was presented with the light/presence, I first went through a period of seeing and feeling several strange shadows kind of wrapping themselves around me and over me...suffocating almost.  It was very frightening.  This is when I began to beg God's forgiveness and mercy -- for I suspected that these "shadow beings" may have meant that I would not be able to go to God -- but that some horrible alternative would take over.

Any associated medications or substances with the potential to affect the experience:   No

Explanation:   No medications or "substances"...just the poisonous venom of the Black Widow spider.

Was the experience difficult to express in words?   Yes

What was it about the experience that makes it hard to communicate?   Difficult to explain how incredible it really was.  Hard to describe the color of the light/presence I encountered...it was a color I've never seen before.  I also found it most difficult to share my experience with someone without feeling as though the listener might not believe me or think that I'd lost my mind or that I just had a vivid dream.  Fortunately, my husband can vouch for me that it was real because of things I knew he was doing while I was "out".

At the time of the experience, was there an associated life threatening event?   Uncertain

Describe:   Black Widow spider bites can be fatal if enough venom is released into the system -- causes muscular tension/cramping which can lead to difficulty breathing and/or suffocation.

What was your level of consciousness and alertness during the experience?   I FELT as though I was in an aware state...but my husband found me not breathing and without a pulse.  I also remember trying to remind myself to take a breath and remember having an extremely slow heartbeat...TOO slow.

Was the experience dream like in any way?   No -- I mean, I knew that my body was still lying on the sofa in the living room, but it didn't matter -- my spirit was IN the experience I was having in another "realm" (for lack of a better term).

Did you experience a separation of consciousness from your body?   Yes

Describe your appearance or form apart from your body:   At one point, during the beginning stages of my experience, I opened my eyes because I felt like I was spinning and saw the foot of the sofa, my feet and the fireplace on the adjoining wall all BELOW me...as if I were looking down on everything from about 5 feet up..as if I was up toward the ceiling.

What emotions did you feel during the experience?   First I felt relaxed..then fearful...then anxiety...then loved...then relieved..then renewed...then welcomed...then unwillingness to join it while ending my present life here.

Did you hear any unusual sounds or noises?   Yes...I haven't thought about that much, now that I think of it...but I did see my deceased grandparents who approached me and my grandfather tried to brush my forehead and said, "Everything's going to be fine." -- but, in retrospect, I don't recall seeing his lips move as though he were saying the words..but I "heard" it.

Did you pass into or through a tunnel or enclosure?   Uncertain

Describe:   It wasn't a tunnel..may have been an enclosure..it definitely had depth.  I didn't really pass into it, though.  I was encountered with it...and did kind of bask in the outskirts of it...but didn't go very far within it..only a short ways.  I know I did go into it somewhat because that's when I was faced with my grandparents.

Did you see a light?   Yes

Describe:   The light, as I described earlier, was a violet/white/blue fluorescent type color...a color I'd never seen before..no one's seen before here on Earth.  It was so incredible and radiated immensely.

Did you meet or see any other beings?   Yes

Describe:   As I mentioned before, I first saw some kind of shadow beings..several of them.  I didn't know them...but actually thought they resembled (by feeling only...I couldn't see them...they were just black silhouettes) bad men from my past or something.  I also met with my deceased paternal grandparents briefly.  I described this earlier.

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?   Yes

Describe:   While I was "out", I felt myself glide (above the floor) into the kitchen where I came up close to a man's neck and jawline and saw that it was my husband...I tried to show my love for him in a spiritual way (best as I can describe it)..I moved back and saw that he was at the kitchen sink doing dishes.  I looked over and then saw my 9 month old daughter playing in her highchair and banging some kind of blue toy on its tray and then teething on it.  I went up close to her and did the same thing.  Later, when I told my husband, he was amazed because he said that's exactly what he was doing and exactly what our daughter was doing and that she WAS playing with a blue toy.  It was a blue cap to one of her bottles.