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Patricia D NDE Essay

            (I wrote this essay after reading hundreds of NDE's) 

The meaning of LIFE...

Why are you living (on Earth)? 

What are the KEYS to the Kingdom of Heaven?

It is about LOVE. One must love self, this way we love God. He is within each of us. We then can love each other (including enemies). We are here to love life, to live life and express back to our Creator our joy in having life here and seeing how beautiful our world is regardless of how we make it. It is a very beautiful world which we should all stop to take into our souls for nourishment. We are never asked to endure more on this earth that we cannot handle. Our souls agreed to the test. We were confident we could do it too.

You may have asked yourself: “Why is there good and evil on earth?” It is actually a real battle for our individual souls. It is why we all have a guardian angel or good angel prodding us to do good, and a tormentor tempting us to do wrong. Our Creator does not wish to loose one soul He created because we all are created out of Him and His love. HE is LOVE, LIFE and LIGHT. 

Every soul before coming to earth has personally chosen to take on a physical body and have the life experiences they choose. Do not waste time in suffering in pain instead of using free will to choose true love (God’s Love). You designed the life that you would lead before voluntarily coming into this world. Your free will within a physical body was to be found only by consciously cultivating happiness through thoughts, feelings and actions. Although, you have designed and chosen your own destiny before taking on a physical body, there are many doors and paths that you can choose during your life on earth. There is no judging or punishing God like many religions say there is. It is your mind with an expanded consciousness that judges itself with God and sifted its actions through the filter of perfect, conscious love.  

To take one's physical life is to break that law, with the result that there must be special care and arrangements made in the spiritual world. In other words, breaking natural law must be accounted for before one can go to higher levels. Because the person's life was cut short and his/her work on earth incomplete, it will be necessary to live out this uncompleted time in spirit aiding the very ones on earth who were most hurt by the suicide. Since the motivation for suicide is usually to avoid unhappiness, we can assume that the spirit takes such unhappiness into the spiritual world. Any problems experienced on earth are always better worked out on earth. The person who commits suicide has taken his life before his mission on earth has been completed.  

There is a spiritual war around every one of us that we do not see. Every person has good and bad spirits around us. It is up to every individual to stay in good faith and try hard to not let our soul fall into the hands of the bad spirits. People around you have these bad spirits that also want your soul to fall. That is why it is important to choose the people you communicate with. If you do to choose to communicate with people that have a troubled soul...then you might strongly want to consider helping them.  

You are given physical eyes for the time you are on earth. These couple of years that you have to spend on earth is a test for your soul. Your true eyes are the eyes of your soul. Close your eyes for a couple of minutes and you may understand. A physically blind man's soul may be more advanced than a man who has physical eyes to see. Physical abnormalities may even be a test on ones soul and for others. It is expected of us to show compassion when we see someone who has been injured, and to remind them that what’s inside is what really matters.

Discrimination or any kind of judgment towards another race / illness / handicap…(whatever) will leave your soul in trouble. Each soul has agreed to the physical features, whether female, male, parents, location, type of illness and/or handicap before entering this world. God wants to see how each person will react when they are approached by any of them and even those who live with them. Always show love. Every person has a mission to do before they die. Each soul has also agreed to be "born" into a specific family. God shows you the situation and problems that you will have to solve before you go down to earth. Examine your life in the past...there is a reason for anything that occurs in this world. This is God's way of giving you chances to improve your soul. God's timing is always accurate. God gives you lessons in each person's life...even if they may seem to be painful- such as: sickness, loss of family, loss of money, an angered family member ...and so on. No matter what troubled situation it may be...God wants to see how each person will handle the situation. Remember...this world is just a test for your soul. Try to help as many souls as you can. Most people on this earth don't know that this world is just a school with many tests. Don't you want to graduate with accomplishment? Before you came to this earth.....not only did you choose to come to the specific parents you've chosen,(example: you choose your classes)- but you also know the people you will be involved with. All this is "forgotten" as a baby enters this world. If you see your life has become a huge challenge and sometimes even too stressful…don’t worry you choose this life. The more of a challenge that you choose…the more rewarded you’ll be…especially if you knew how to do everything right. Even when you die, this still doesn’t mean that your soul has completely finished its task. You’ve soul has matured much more by choosing to live on this earth for a period of time…but there are "schools" in heaven to also help mature your soul. (The schools in heaven take longer for your accomplishment according to many NDE's.) 

Each soul agrees/accepts to their illnesses and struggles in the life that they choose. Remember this world is just a test to get your soul to a higher maturation. Each soul has to do their best in doing everything in life through love. We are all Gods children…this means He has unconditional love for us. If you fail a task, don’t worry…God will throw you another one to see if you can pass. Always pray to God and tell others to pray too. This is very important because many don’t realize their purpose on this earth. Ask for forgiveness when you fail. Sometimes bad things that happen in life can actually bring a person or more closer to God. Those who feel a great amount of guilt and shame and feel that they are unworthy or incapable of being loved by God…are the ones that we need to help. We need to teach those who remain tortured in the shadows to awaken and realize that their turmoil is of no need. God is pure LOVE. The experiences these souls had on earth were just that, an experience and part of their mission. When they learn to let go of the guilt and shame they will return back to the light. 

Understand: that there is no God outside ourselves but is, rather, in everything and everything is a part of God, as is life itself. (Hafur's NDE) 

That everything is part of an essential game of life itself, and that to the degree that we live by true love--unconditional and universal--the closer we are to an understanding of what life truly is, which is true happiness and perfect wisdom. 

That everything is experience and that this life and the next are essentially the same because everything is God. Nothing is outside of god just as nothing is outside of life itself.  

"I," includes "We," and are like a mirror where we perceive the reflection of our reality in its many facets and illusions (Hafur's NDE). 

Our souls in heaven can choose to be born on earth when we want to- but we go when God’s will appoints our time. Everything is connected with full knowledge and understanding in Heaven. He has predestined our births, our purpose, and our mission in life, and our time to leave, to pass on to go home. There are no accidents - everything has a reason. There is no luck or coincidences in life; everything is planned out, right down to each hair on your head. Each soul is at a certain spiritual level. We do have free will...and it is when you sin that your course in life reminds you (eventually teaches you) that doing only the will of God is the only way. If you refuse all the signs that God gives you to follow the Word of God, then it is your own fault...(you are endangering your own soul, as well as other souls that you encounter with). Before you come down to earth, God shows you an overview of the people and events that you will encounter...some are events of you committing certain sins. (All of this information wiped out from memory since you are born into this world.) You are able to always change the path of your destiny through prayer and actions. (Always pause and think before you do anything- because the outcome of your actions may lead another soul to make mistakes). The main reason why there is sin, is that hopefully you will understand later that what you've done is wrong (your soul matures when you learn from your mistakes). Your sin may help other people around you learn from your mistake. Everyone on this earth will encounter sins in their lives...it's the main reason why there's life here. Sometimes bad things happen for a reason. God will not interfere with your life that has already been predestined or known, unless you pray and ask him to. There are sins and bad events that will occur in your life in order for your soul to mature; although your soul will mature much further if you pray that you will not be tempted into sin. If you pray constantly that you will not be tempted into sin, your life as well as other lives will be affected in a positive way. By praying to God to avoid sin, you prove that Satan (evil) is defeated. The importance of the future of each human and how each individual plays on earth is an important part in the development of each of us as a whole. Were all connected to each other and if our life's plan is not fulfilled, it impacts the whole. There is no such thing as death. Eternal life is of the spirit, and the body no longer has a use. It returns to the Earth, from where it came.

The more difficult your task seems on earth, the more your soul will accomplish and grow…if you complete your task with LOVE. You’ll want all the difficult tasks you can get so your soul can mature at a higher level. (You have chosen and agreed to all the difficulties in this life from before you came to earth). Everyone on this earth has obstacles to go through. God throws them at you because He wants to see your soul grow.  

For example: A family member has cancer. (Again; each soul chooses/accepts their illnesses before being born into this world.) There’s a reason why this person has cancer. It helps people to work together to form a more positive atmosphere…only if each individual chooses to do so. The family members feel sorrow and shows love to the one with cancer. They may even try to become closer to the one with cancer. They may even start praying to God more. The family may sense more closeness. And, the individual with Cancer may even try to become closer to God.

Each soul is in a certain level in which we have certain lessons to learn. When we fail at our lessons on earth, we still have to continue learning. Religion is a ladder of a soul's maturity. Each religion is a sort of school grade. I also came back with such a deep inner sadness over the lack of compassion and understanding in the world over religion. For every person that completely devotes themselves in their religion during their stay on earth (what ever that religion may be), is helping their soul to mature. Respect all religions, because each soul had already chosen to be in that religion for their own "level". Eventually, they will mature either here on earth or after death. Each individual has the ability to help another soul mature. 

Why we are here: 

#1. To become separate unique individuals.  

#2. To experience time and space.  

#3. To gather memories of what it feels like to have a physical body, which we do by forming memory in our conscience which we will use after we die to re-create an image of a physical body using the quantum physics principle of "thoughts being things" or "consciousness creating reality".  

#4 To understand that LOVE equals God and Hate/sin equals Satan (away from God.)


We become unique separate individuals by experiencing separation and by experiencing duality. (Some people experience death, some divorce (they feel what if it's like to have separation). Earth has time and space - so we experience the emotions of how it feels when a loved one moves far away). Race, religions, our weight, height, color, culture, socio-economic status, personality, emotions, etc. all exist for the sole purpose of teaching us what it means to be "separate" because on the other side the feeling of oneness and connectedness are overwhelming due to it's holographic nature. Even crooked teeth, the bumps on our noses, shapes of our faces, etc., all teach us what it feels like to be a unique individual on Earth. That's why we have to live a life in a physical body, so we'll know what it feels like to be an individual. The feelings of oneness and connectedness are so overwhelming on the other side that "individuality" may be the only thing that can't be learned while existing in Heaven. Everything in the physical universe exists in a "dual" state so that we can identify with it, and thus imprint on our consciousness what it means to be "separate." 

Our original form is made of light because our creator is made of light. All is connected, seen and unseen by the human eye. We humans don't understand and feel the connectedness while living on earth. 

The other side is the world of the quantum, where thoughts are things, and where consciousness creates reality. It is also totally holographic in nature. That's why many NDEs say that they went into a "hall of learning" or "place of knowledge" and it seemed like to them the building was "made of knowledge." 

We don't live for just ourselves, but for all the consciousness in the entire universe. The knowledge and memories and feelings that we are learning and storing do not belong to us alone, but will be available for everyone to use after they cross over so they can create a reality and learn on the other side. (There are no judgments towards others in Heaven). Everything is shared on the other side. It's a place where there is no separation. We all joined in on this experience before being physically born on earth. (Even before the earth was created). Many NDE's try to explain the knowledge that they received, but realized the difficulty due to the limitations of the human capabilities. Time and space doesn't exist when we are out of our bodies.


During your life review, you will be able to judge yourself because you gain knowledge in heaven to do so. You will observe, feel and understand why everything happened the way it happened during every second of your life that you had on earth. Therefore, one near death experiencer has made four helpful rules or agreements that every person should follow: 

(1) Be Impeccable (faultless) With Your Word. The broad scope of this concept is to avoid sin against yourself by what you think. Sinning against the self takes many forms: such as, putting yourself down, gossiping, or putting anybody else down because you don't agree with what they think. Actions and words need to be consistent as part of being impeccable with yourself. Our perceptions of others are merely reflections of ourselves. Therefore, to put another down or project negative words or energy towards another person, is to lash out at the other person because of our own insecurities. Being impeccable with your word is the correct use of energy; it means to use your energy in the direction of love and truth for yourself and others. This is a powerful concept about using free will to make correct choices that lead one closer to God.  

(2) Don't Take Anything Personally. There is an awful lot of negative energy out there and some of it is directed at us by other people. If you take it personally and take on the poison of another's words, it becomes a very negative agreement you have with yourself. What anybody thinks about you, or says about you, is really about them. Not taking it personally allows you to be in relationship with anyone and not get trapped in their stuff. This agreement can also pertain to things that we take personally that cause us to go into upset.  

(3) Don't Make Assumptions. What we think we understand about what someone says, how someone looks at us, what someone means by what they do, etc, may often not reflect reality at all, and more often than not lead us to think badly of ourselves or of others, and reinforce not being impeccable with our word.  

(4) Always Do Your Best. Your "best" is a variable thing from moment to moment. "When you do your best, you don't give the Judge the opportunity to find you guilty or to blame you." You can always say, "I did my best." There are no regrets. The other key to doing your best revolves about being in action. "Action is about living fully. Inaction is the way that we deny life. Inaction is sitting in front of the television every day for years because you are afraid to be alive and to take the risk of expressing what you are. Expressing what you are is taking action. You can have many great ideas in your head, but what makes the difference is the action. Without action upon an idea, there will be no manifestation, no results, and no reward." (More importantly: NO SPIRITUAL GROWTH!!). This was the main reason why you are here on this earth, so try not to fail yourself.

(The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz, Amber-Allen Publishing, San Rafael, CA (1997).


For Christians- (and those choosing to accept Christianity)

The world of the Lord is real. Every person is called to realize himself in the world of the Lord. There is no other way to this world but one. This way is Jesus Christ. The only provision and protection needed for this journey on this way is love. We must all love one another with no return, no conditions or limitations. In order for us to extend such love, we must immerse ourselves in the fountain of love: Jesus Christ, through prayer.  

All people have ears to listen. Few listens, few of who listens understands and few of who listens and understands, works. Listen, understand and do the will of God." The person who prays lives the mystery of existence, and the person who does not pray, hardly exists!  

Examine your conscience, reflect, repent and renew your life! The Lord has created each human being to shine, to enlighten the world; you are the light of the world. Each man is a lantern meant to shine; the Lord has provided a clear and transparent glass to the lantern, to enable that light to shine and illuminate the world; but they are taking care of the glass and forgetting about the light; they are caring about the glass shape, coloring and decorating it, until it becomes thick, opaque, preventing light from shining forth, and thus is the world drowned in darkness. The Lord insists on illuminating the world. Your glass must become transparent again. You should realize the purpose for which you are born in this world.  

Christ knows what is in your hearts, and it is your hearts that he wants. Don't seek for the truth outside the Christ; when you know the Christ, you will know the Truth and you will be free. The Christ wants you to be free. Fear not, and be sure that the Christ has defeated the world.


Life is also a trilogy and it is in the three forms we identify theologically to God as "Water, Air and Light or 'Living Waters, Breathe of God, Light of the World" or however we wish to describe the Father, Son and Holy Spirit. Much like the Sun being the Father, while the sunshine is the Son and the warmth of the sunshine is the Holy Spirit (Diane C's NDE)


Words from the Bible:

1 A.D. Holy Scripture: New Testament 

...Whoever hears my word and believes him who sent me has eternal life and will not be condemned; he has crossed over from death to life... 

I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in me will live, even though he dies; and whoever lives and believes in me will never die. (John 11:25,26-5:24) 

If there is a natural body, there is also a spiritual body...And just as we have borne the likeness of earthly man, so shall we bear the likeness of the man from heaven. (Corinthians 15:50) 

So we fix our eyes not on what is seen but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal. (II Corinthians 4:18) 

...The body without the spirit is dead. ... (James 2:26) 

As long as we are at home in the body we are away from the Lord... and would prefer to be away from the body and at home with the Lord. (II Corinthians 5:5-6) 

Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight. Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of him to whom we must give account. (Hebrews 4:13) 

God will give to each person according to what he has done. (Romans 2:6)

Was the kind of experience difficult to express in words? Uncertain      researching NDE

At the time of this experience, was there an associated life threatening event?          Uncertain            researching NDE

At what time during the experience were you at your highest level of consciousness and alertness?    researching NDE

How did your highest level of consciousness and alertness during the experience compare to your normal every day consciousness and alertness?    Normal consciousness and alertness

            researching NDE

Did your vision differ in any way from your normal, everyday vision (in any aspect, such as clarity, field of vision, colors, brightness, depth perception degree of solidness/transparency of objects, etc.)?  No       researching NDE

Did your hearing differ in any way from your normal, everyday hearing (in any aspect, such as clarity, ability to recognize source of sound, pitch, loudness, etc.)?
            No       researching NDE

Did you experience a separation of your consciousness from your body?     No

What emotions did you feel during the experience?            researching NDE

Did you pass into or through a tunnel or enclosure?          No       researching NDE

Did you see a light?           No       researching NDE

Did you meet or see any other beings?           No       researching NDE

Did you experience a review of past events in your life?    No       researching NDE

Did you observe or hear anything regarding people or events during your experience that could be verified later?          No       researching NDE

Did you see or visit any beautiful or otherwise distinctive locations, levels or dimensions?           No            researching NDE

Did you have any sense of altered space or time?   No       researching NDE

Did you have a sense of knowing special knowledge, universal order and/or purpose?     No            researching NDE

Did you reach a boundary or limiting physical structure? No       researching NDE

Did you become aware of future events?       No
            researching NDE

Did you have any psychic, paranormal or other special gifts following the experience you did not have prior to the experience?     Yes     researching NDE

Have you shared this experience with others?         No       researching NDE

Did you have any knowledge of near death experience (NDE) prior to your experience?    No            researching NDE

How did you view the reality of your experience shortly (days to weeks) after it happened:            Experience was definitely real    researching NDE

Were there one or several parts of the experience especially meaningful or significant to you?            researching NDE

How do you currently view the reality of your experience:            Experience was definitely real            researching NDE

Have your relationships changed specifically as a result of your experience?           No            researching NDE

Have your religious beliefs/practices changed specifically as a result of your experience?           
No            researching NDE

Following the experience, have you had any other events in your life, medications or substances which reproduced any part of the experience?         No       researching NDE

Is there anything else you would like to add concerning the experience?        researching NDE

Did the questions asked and information you provided so far accurately and comprehensively describe your experience?         Yes